Approaching the Official "In my 40's" Date...Quickly

D-day is nearly here. I have--counting today--3 days left before my 41st birthday, at which time I will be "in my 40's." It sucks. In my head I'm still 26 and I own the world, but we all know I'm not (and certainly don't think I own the world any longer, and DON'T really want to ever be in my 20's again). My mid to late 20's were cool, but I was still a child. There were a couple of years while in my 30's that I enjoyed a little, but I wasn't in my zone, but I know already that my 40's will be the best years of my life (so far).

Why will my 40's be the best years of my life? I'm finding my way back to being comfortable who I am. I'm also not waking up and contemplating what might have been. I've never been married because I never felt that I had to be married, so there was no pressure or settling on someone or something, which has been the greatest of all attitudes to adopt, for me. Why? Because I don't have to look back and wish I'd done things differently, and I had time to find out all about me (the good and the bad). Because it means I've never been trying to find someone (though I have found my soul mate now, Poseidon), if it happened, it happened. I never stressed about having a baby before 30 (or any age really). My biological clock may tick like most women's clock, but mine has a mute button, and I chose to use it. Now I'm at a point where I feel like everything else is gravy!

So, as I'm approaching the big "41" I've done some reflecting, some journaling, etc., and I have a few more days to share those thoughts in my blog, so expect more posts than usual this week. As I love to dole out unsolicited advice, what better time than now to give some "guidance" to the 20 and 30 year old greenhorns who think the world belongs to them and they are the only ones who've ever been that age... Let me first say this: I have great friends who are in their 20's and early 30's and I mean no disrespect or offense to you just because of your age. The friends I have who are in their 20's and 30's are mature, cool chicks who have at least one foot in reality with a solid understanding of who they are and where they might want to go!

--Fortuitous "Almost in my Forties" Observer